Working Mommy Guilt Anyone?
Posted by AmorCielo | Under MommyHood Friday Feb 17, 2012
I am a working Mom trying to be a super wonder Mom to my kids. Schedule would usually turn so erratic that there are times that I feel so stress and worn out. I am at times depressed; I can feel the guilt since I know that my kids only deserve the best of me. However, very usual than not, I would be home late at night already dead tired. But no matter how tired I may be, I would always tend to my kids’ needs (assignments, baon, projects, bonding moments). I may not give them much of my time but I am giving them my quality time.
I know that I can choose to be a Work at Home Mom right now but I chose to be a Working Mom due to some priorities that my husband and I have set and obligations to fulfill. We are doing it for our kids.
Working Mommy guilt is just natural for a working momma like me. But we should not be harsh on ourselves since we are working to give our kids a brighter future. I had been working ever since I had been a Mom and my 2 kids cannot discount the fact that I love them dearly. For those who are also in my shoes I know that you can totally relate.
Let me share to you my simple ways that I am doing which turns out to be effective in countering my working mommy guilt in my end. I may suck in time management but modesty aside I am good in giving them my quality time
- All working moms working outside the confines of their home wishes to have more time with their kids at home, the very reason why weekends and holidays for me are very precious. Weekends and holidays are for my family only, I am very lucky that my superiors in the company where I work have the same priority.
- At home my kids are my boss. I give them my full attention and time. I listen to them. I also encourage them to share their stories and even jokes. I am giving them their freedom of speech to air their opinion but to some extent. Debates are also welcome at home provided that they do their piece in a polite manner.
- Dinners are sacred for us, this is the time that we reconnect.
- I never miss my kids’ milestone , I may not be in every practice/rehearsals that they have but I make sure that I am always there during their main event.
- Reaasurance – I always make them feel that just because I am busy at work, it doesn’t mean that I don’y love them.
- Support Group- I am very lucky that I have a good support group none other than my family most sepcially my husband and siblings (all of us are working Moms and Dad).
- Vacation – once a year my husband and I make sure that we take our kids in a vacation. We would often do it with my immediate family (with 21 family members – my parents, siblings and pamangkins)
For working moms like me feeling guilty is just natural, but do not pressure yourself. We must remember that we can never be superwoman since we are just but human., but we can be a wonder Mom who can do loving wonders to our children.
But of course at the end of the day, it is always my family specially my kids that is on my priority. No meetings, conferences and projects can stop me to see every milestone of my kids. I am just happy that my bosses knew this being parents themselves too.
How about you, how do you counter working mommy guilt?
You’ve been affected by your too busy working sked and you worried about your kids’ well-being, but yet you’ve spent a quality time for them. Well, it’s quite manageable for they’re only 2 of them. It’s not too burden for you. What other moms who have a big family to attain to. Family job is a father-mother undertakings. They supplement with each other. When the father couldn’t his work, the mother will do, vice versa. And the best way to keep a close bonding is to go to Church together, have a family prayer, family scripture reading. Everything for sure will be spiritually enlightening and stress free. Sop be it. RandomThoughts!</a. is just sharing what he had experienced in handling his family of six.
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good luck sa pagiging super mo mo mam n_n
ganyan din ang nanay ko noon
i salute you!
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What a confession. I am happy to know that you still find time to bond with your kids. In this generation, kids need their parents to guide them in all aspects. I still say that more than anything else, kids should be the parents’ number one priority.
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My wife is a living proof of this as she took a 9-month absence from work before going back.
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So touching. Ok lang yan. You are indeed a super mom because you can still do many things within your time frame as a worker and as a mom :>
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Guilty as charged too. But let’s not be hard on our self. Let’s instead do the best we can to make up for times not spent with them. They understand, they always do.:)
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naku working mom din me, good thing asawa ko asikaso sa house, baligtad, gawa mga visa issues, pero oks naman.. nasasanay din!
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 12:31 am
Ganyan din si Mama and Dad ko…when my Dad resigns from work due to health reasons…Si Dad tends to our needs at home, while mom works..Ok lang yun it is a mutual symbiotic understanding between the couples
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your indeed super mom, sometimes working mom has no time to their family na pero i salute you for being a good mom.
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 12:23 am
sagrado tlaga ang weekends and holidays ko sis…at pag vacation ni hubby I always apply for vacation leave kahit unpaid pa
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Same with my mom. Work din ng work but pagmay time sya, bawi talaga. What my mom does is she cooks food for the family. Kahit sa bahay lang, quality time pa rin.
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 12:22 am
And your Mom surely raised a good and artistic child in you. Your Mom must be proud of you. and BTW I will be frequenting your blog for more DIY tutorials..
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Don’t be guilty being a working mom!As long as you still spend some quality time with your children. Mom’s always give unconditional love and care for their children and you work because you wanted to give a brighter future for your kids!
Pleasse swing by my page too! http://travel-on-a-shoe-string.blogspot.com/
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I love your blog design and of course the post, although I am still single. Like you, my family is important to me. I tried my best to give my family a taste of what I am blessed to have so I take them on vacations and we celebrate all occasions. I send 10 of my 12 nephews and nieces to school because education is the best gift I could give them!
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 12:21 am
wow sending all your pamanngkin to school is very noble indeed/… You will be blessed
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exactly, dinner is the most important thing.
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I’m not yet a mom but i know a lot of working moms. I consider all of them supermoms! They just know how to balance everything..
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 1:48 am
You are defintely correct sis
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you are indeed a super mom! as long as your kids know the reason why you work, there’s no need to be guilty. and save some time for yourself too
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 2:57 am
Thanks Yuuki
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I wouldn’t know how or what a working mom deals with everyday but I’m sure it is a lot and it will require lots of hardwork as well. Goodluck to you.
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 2:57 am
You can just imagine…office tasks and minding everything at home…T
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i cant relate to this yet because i am not a mom nor a wife yet. but i think, soon enough, i will.
kudos on your being supermom!
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AmorCielo Reply:
February 19th, 2012 at 10:21 am
Hi Ayah, your Mom can totally relate to it, I am sure kudos to her too since she has raised you that well
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I adore all mothers. My mother was a single mom and raised me and my sibling the best way she could. She worked very hard to put us to school. I miss her.:(
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I don’t let my child to be the boss in my household. I am the mother and kids should be stay as kids even they reach 40 years old. There is different role in the organization. I know it’s not easy to be a super mommy. If you leave abroad you’ll see 90% of mothers are working and 90% of fathers help their wife in everything. I’ve known lots of super mom and they are my inspirations. You’re one of them.
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We can’t do everything … we just need to try our best.
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